Getting a Cold Feet?

Getting cold feet on the day of your wedding is never a good feeling. You can seriously hurt both your marriage partner and yourself if things aren't handled properly. I mean, just look at Carrie and Big in Sex and the City Movie! Big had at first planned on abandoning the wedding, but he cleared his mind and knew that he wanted to marry Carrie. However, by then it was too late and Carrie had already left the venue, hating him for abandoning her and believing that he didn't love her...what a mess right? I mean, they eventually got married like a year later but not without enduring some serious broken heart pain for the both of them.

However, getting cold feet is a fairly normal thing. I mean, who wouldn't be nervous about making the decision to make spend of your life with this one person...your entire life kind of depends on whether you're making the right choice...sorry, didn't mean to scare you there. However, the point is that it's a big decision, probably the biggest decision you will ever make in your life, so it's normal to be a little nervous and/or hesitant. Seriously, it might be a little worrisome if you weren't nervous. The difference between your cold feet and a friends is that you know how to cope with it. Hence, avoiding a disaster of a wedding as well.

Remember one simple rule though: if you're worried about the little things on the day of your wedding (pet peeves, annoying habits, etc), it's probably not worth calling off the wedding. True, a lot of times it's the little things that matter, but merging you and your groom's life together is certainly not going to be easy. You have to accommodate for him and him for you. Besides, if you're already at the day of your marriage, surely you guys have already figured out most of these little things. So stop worrying! Well, maybe do worry if you guys haven't talked about any of this stuff...if that's the case, then it's a whole different story.

However, if there are bigger issues at hand, then you might want to consider breaking off the wedding. These include:

1. Physical or emotional abuse
2. Money spending habits and lifestyle: yep, a huge portion of marriages end in divorce because of money.
3. Betrayal: cheating, lying, etc.
4. Children: you want 5 and he's set on having none for example.
5. Religion: some religious conflicts are very hard to solve.
6. Drug, alcohol, gambling additions. Any unhealthy addictions really.
7. Trust: if you guys still have trust issues, you probably shouldn't get married quite yet (or even be together for that matter).